In November I spoke at Little Tree Montessori School in Dover on the topic of how schools can help grow curious eaters. We had a great Q & A at the end, but ran out of time to get to all the questions. Today, I’ll answer those final questions to round out the year.

1. How can I get my toddler to eat?

This is a BIG question! My first thought is to wonder why this kiddo isn’t eating? Are they too busy playing or distracted by toys or screens? Are family members sitting with him and modeling eating a meal? Is there something else?

Creating an eating routine is a good place to start. Announce “Time for lunch!” and wash your hands together. Let your toddler choose between two sides to accompany the main—“Would you like banana or apple today?” When possible, sit and eat with them. Kids learn how to eat by watching adults.

2. What is the best way to respond to a child who refuses to eat at all?

My question is still “why?” Is this kiddo full of snacks so they’re not ready to eat a meal? Do they refuse to eat what is prepared because they’re holding out for the “back up” meal (which they prefer)? Is it the end of the day and everyone is pooped? Holding gentle, consistent boundaries around which foods are available at which time means that kiddos have been presented with an opportunity to eat a meal or snack every few hours. If they decide not to eat, then parents can feel comfortable knowing that they’ve eaten earlier in the day.

3. Are chicken nuggets and PB & J okay to feed a toddler?

I’m a big fan of creating a meal that has a source of protein, a fruit/veg & a starch. So if you’re offering chicken nuggets be sure to include some cucumber slices and a small slice of bread & butter. PB & J needs a side of fruit or veggies to round it out. Remember, the parents decide the what/where/when & kids decide whether to eat it or not & how much from what you provide.

4. What is a portion size for a toddler?

The rule of thumb is 1 tablespoon per year of your child’s age per type of food. So, a 2 year old would be offered 2 tbsp of peas, 1 meatball cut in 1/2, 2 tbsp of mashed potatoes. This is simply a starting point! Ultimately what decides the portion size is your child’s hunger.

And finally, Happy New Year!

I’ll be taking an extended break from writing but wanted to thank you for your questions and feedback. I so appreciate you all!

Snack Idea:

Pita bread, carrot sticks & roasted red pepper hummus

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